Parents who support their kids deserve a round of applause. However, there are also parents who feel the need to support their children no matter what. An argument can be made that that isn’t always what’s best for them. I can understand full support when a child is between the ages of 1 to 8 years old, but after that I feel as though constructive criticism is good in moderation. I realize that many parents may disagree with me on this issue, but I assure you that over supporting a child is only helping the child think everything they do is great, which in turn allows them to develop into a young adult that often thinks too highly of themselves.
I have seen many instances in which too much support at a young age has had a negative effect on a child as they became older. The instances are all around us. Relatives, television shows, movies, etc. all have examples of how this parenting strategy often does not work. Now, I am not saying be hard on your children and tell them straight up when they have a bad idea. One of the best strategies when something like this occurs is to use the “hamburger method.”
What do I mean by saying the hamburger method? Parents should give their child a little good with the bad. Using a business idea as an example, let’s say your 12 year old son or daughter is very driven and comes to you with an idea for a business. The business lacks planning and doesn’t seem like it will succeed. It is crucial not to shoot down the idea, but instead give praise for the creativeness of the idea and then provide some constructive criticism and some advice to make it better. I still recommend that the parents encourage their child to try and start the business, since it would be a great learning experience for them. If failure occurs, then this is not a bad thing. Failure is often what teaches us to become better as a person, business person, leader, etc. Help your child learn, but do not coddle them and tell them their idea is “the best thing since sliced bread” (many parents out their use that strategy).
During my life my parents were very supportive. I have had many business ideas and tennis tournaments that they have always been there to show praise. However, I respect them not so much for their praise, but instead for their constructive criticism. Every lost tennis match, non-structured business idea, etc.; my parents were always there to tell me the truth, rather than coddling me and telling me everything that I do is great. Parents, I urge you to take a page out of their book and show your children criticism, but only if it will help them grow as a person (never completely shoot them down). It is their constructive criticism, along with lots of hard work that has made me into the man that I am today.